This book is for anyone who has ever hidden part of themselves in order to belong.
Boys and men who learned to hide their sensitivity in order to fit in may recognize something of themselves in these pages.
Parents, partners, siblings, therapists, teachers, coaches, and friends will find a rare glimpse into the quiet emotional lives many men never learned to share.
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Part illustrated memoir, part visual meditation, Hiding Inside a Man traces one man's lifelong attempt to reconcile sensitivity, masculinity, and self-compassion. Through words and drawings, this intimate memoir invites readers into the hidden emotional landscape many boys and men learn to keep out of sight—and the steady work of bringing their full selves back into the light.
Words from respected voices in psychology and men's work
"It takes much more courage to be unafraid of anything within me. Matthew Sloane models that kind of manhood—the kind that is sensitive to everything, and strong enough to hold all of it.”
— Dr. Kelly Flanagan
"Matt’s deeply personal book… With this gift of guidance they may just find the soul poetry of worthy masculinity."
— Bill Kauth
“Matthew courageously shares his personal journey of emotional isolation and his quest to build meaningful connections with men… I highly recommend this book for boys and men.”
— Daniel Ellenberg, PhD
“…It’s the book I wish I had been able to read to my children and grandchildren… for every woman who has hungered for a man to be this vulnerable and honest.”
— Jed Diamond, PhD
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If this resonates, here’s how to get your copy and start the journey:
- Order online (below) via print-on-demand (expect to receive in 9–14 days)
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Hiding Inside a Man: Finding Strength in Self-Compassion
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A uniquely illustrated graphic novel that invites men—and anyone interested in understanding men—to explore the inner world of masculinity through the lens of self-compassion.
- Personal Growth / Men's Studies / Graphic Memoir
- Recommended for readers ages 14 and up
- Includes appendix with reflection questions & group discussion guide