“I love being in the room when people change their minds about men. Including the men.” — Matthew Sloane

I’ve been engaged in men’s work since 2004, when I first joined a men’s group. Out of that formative period, I wrote and illustrated Hiding Inside a Man—a book exploring my own confusion about what it meant to be a man, and the quiet emergence of an inner ally I now call self-compassion. The book has been described as “encouraging” and “a gift of guidance.”

Speaking to men from my own lived experience is one way I invite them to claim and share their own. I don’t want men to be like me. I want to help create the conditions for men to become who they came here to be—so their presence, relationships, and leadership serve something larger than themselves.

Workplace culture & belonging

Initiated a peer feedback and coaching program within a male-dominated, hands-on workforce—introducing shared language and practical structures that helped people show up more fully and bring their best selves to work.

Community systems around boys & young men

Co-founded a community-based coalition of parents, educators, and high school students focused on strengthening the systems around boys and young men so they feel seen, valued, and connected—and so the whole community benefits from their engagement.

Men’s circles & relational spaces

Co-created and continue to facilitate a drop-in men’s circle within a sauna and cold-therapy community space—cultivating brotherhood, self-compassion, and renewed hope for dozens of men (so far).

• Designing and facilitating workshops that support insight, dialogue, and action;
• Leadership and developmental coaching;
• Stakeholder listening and qualitative research;
• Design thinking for complex human systems;
• Public speaking and group engagement;
• Communications strategy grounded in values and lived experience;
• Project management in relational, multi-stakeholder contexts.

• I have an unreasonable love for ’80s pop music.
• I’m a dad. Wanting to set a steady tone for my young kids has led me into a deep, ongoing practice of nervous system regulation.
• I coach young kids in ultimate frisbee—which is mostly a cover for teaching self-improvement and appreciation for teammates.
• I’m a husband. I’ve weathered hard moments in partnership and continue to choose honest expression and responsibility for my contributions—both the healthy and the less skillful ones.
• In college, I flirted with majors in Art, Physics, and Economics before landing on Creative Writing.
• Writing remains my primary way of taking responsibility for my inner life and lived experience.