Have you ever felt like being a man meant you had to armor up, hide parts of yourself, or pretend to be someone that was not you?
I’m Matthew Sloane—author, illustrator, and someone deeply committed to helping men explore their inner lives with courage and self-compassion.
Autobiographical
This book is my story: from a quiet, removed introvert to a participant and leader in men’s groups. From guarding myself around other men to discovering the joy and power of listening, sharing, and connecting without judgment.
Graphic Novel
Hiding Inside a Man is a uniquely illustrated graphic novel that invites men—and anyone interested in understanding men—to explore the inner world of masculinity through the lens of self-compassion. With 48 illustrations and 140 pages of story, it conveys as much through images as words.
Why it matters
Our culture often defines manhood in one-dimensional ways—muscles, money, and babes. But there's more. There's real connection, compassion, and being driven by our hearts. Stories like this one help us evolve those cultural scripts.
For group exploration
The book includes a 23-page appendix with reflective questions and group facilitation guides—perfect for men’s groups, book clubs, or courses on men and masculinities. These exercises are designed to help men reflect on themselves, their relationships, and how they show up in the wider world.
Watch the brief trailer (2:37) to explore the story, the drawings, and the heart of the book…
Praise from men’s work specialists
“Matthew courageously shares his personal journey of emotional isolation and his quest to build meaningful connections with men… I highly recommend this book for boys and men.”
Daniel Ellenberg, PhD
“…It’s the book I wish I had been able to read to my children and grandchildren… for every woman who has hungered for a man to be this vulnerable and honest.”
Jed Diamond, PhD
"Matt’s deeply personal book… With this gift of guidance they may just find the soul poetry of worthy masculinity."
Bill Kauth
Get your copy
If this resonates, here’s how to get your copy and start the journey:
- Order online (below) via print-on-demand (expect to receive in 9–14 days)
- Bulk discounts: contact me about options for your group (20+ books)
- Local pickup: contact me if you live near Milwaukie, OR and want to avoid shipping fees.
Hiding Inside a Man: Finding Strength in Self-Compassion
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A uniquely illustrated graphic novel that invites men—and anyone interested in understanding men—to explore the inner world of masculinity through the lens of self-compassion.